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The Key to Happiness
Don’t search for Happiness in stuff or other people. When you lose the items or the people, only unhappiness will be left. Find Happiness in yourself. YOU ARE THE KEY!
Most of us want to know how we can achieve Happiness. What the key is, that special kind of trick to be happy for the rest of our lives. And in the meantime, we forget that we ourselves are this key.
Happiness is something that has to be experienced. It can not be explained. What for me is happiness can be for another person different and vice versa.
Unhappiness comes from the mind. And therefore the opposite, Happiness, also.
“Happiness is a State of Mind“
Find your KEY!Author Holistic Therapy
There are ways to rewire, retrain, your brain, so you can be the Happy person you are supposed to be. Don’t hesitate, start retraining!
According to the course Happiness Course: Practical Steps – Create A Fulfilled Life which I have followed (one of the best courses I have found on the internet), sadness, unhappiness, comes from “What the Mind wants” or “What the Mind don’t want“.
And this wanting, or not wanting, comes from memories learned in the past. Memories that have been settled in the subconscious mind. Therefore, many of our reactions are not conscious, they happen. But you can still behold accountable for them, as there is a possibility to change. It’ll take effort to learn. To change, but it is worth it!
The course, mentioned above, learns us also that living in the HERE & NOW stops our Minds from wanting or not wanting.
What can you do to achieve your Happiness except to still your mind? There are several things that you can do before stilling your Mind:
Your body doesn’t recognize the difference between a fake or real smile. Though, the benefits of smiling are big. Your body releases dopamine, endorphins and serotonin into your bloodstream. These hormones relax your body, lower your heart rate and blood pressure. And you might make someone’s day when smiling to another person.
- Live in the Here & Now. Live in the moment
The past is gone, and it is not possible to change it. Not even when we overthink it for years. Impossible. And the future hasn’t arrived yet. The only thing you can influence is the here & now.
- Express Gratitude
Be thankful & grateful for what you already have. That’ll make you happy. Do not focus on what you do not have.
- Do what you love, and love what you do
It helps an enormous amount when you love what you do. When your work is something you enjoy and looking forward to.
- Don’t mind about what other people think of you
It is important what you think of yourself. Not what others think of you. We arrive automatically at the next point.
- Know your value
Do not settle for less than your worth. Do not speak negative about yourself.
- Help others
This doesn’t need to be big. Keep the door open, help a neighbour doing (daily) shopping. Pick something up what another person dropped, post a letter for a friend, etc.
- Be yourself
Always playing an act cost a lot of energy, and will not make you happy. Believe me…
- Be honest
OK, to be honest, not everyone will agree with this. But you can be honest without being rude. No need to say anything negative when not asked something. Honesty, in my opinion, goes a long way. The longest. Extra bonus, no need to memorize a lie.
- Keep a Gratitude Diary
As mentioned above, being Grateful makes you Happy. So will keep a Gratitude Dairy. This way, you have to think often about where you are Grateful for. Remembering this makes you Happy.
And you might make someones day when smiling to another personAuthor Holistic Therapy
It is not easy to still your Mind. To train it to be in the present, and stop looking at the past or the future. To stop it from wanting or not wanting. But it is possible. Yes, it’ll take effort and time, but when it helps to feel so much happier than before, why not make time for it?
Still your Mind (key to happiness) by doing (one of) the following:
When sporting, the mind almost automatically concentrates on the breath. Maybe not in the beginning, but later on for sure.
- Focus & concentrate on breathing
When focusing on your breathing, you need to stay, with your Mind, with the counting. I prefer the 5|5|5 counting. Start with inhaling and exhaling deeply for a few times. After that, start inhaling for 5 counts. Stop for 5 counts and exhale for 8 counts.
Mindfulness learns you to stay in the here and now which, as explained previously, still the mind.
There are many very well guided meditations that can be found on the internet. In the beginning, when not trained, you will notice that your mind is wandering. That is OK. Just go back to detach from your thoughts.
Yoga is known for balancing body & mind connection. Strengthen it. This improving the quality of life and reduces anxiety. There are more benefits of yoga for the brain. And let’s not forget for the body.
Remember, nobody can be 100% happy all the time. Ups and downs are things we all have in life. But trying to be as positive as you can be will help you to live a happier life…
This blog was first posted at my previous, still existing (not being updated) blog, The Worldview of an INFJ
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